The most important thing to remember before your next IEP meeting
I have worked in the field of — as a teacher, consultant, content expert, author, speaker, and professor — for almost 20 years. I’m also a parent of a child with learning and thinking differences. My son was diagnosed with , , and in his early elementary school years. He also has .
Even with all of my professional experience, it was still intimidating for me and caused butterflies in my stomach to prepare for an Individualized Education Program (IEP) meeting. Just like you, I wanted my son’s IEP meetings to go well. I wanted him to have a productive and good year in terms of instruction. I wanted him to get the services and support he needed to be successful.
I’ve learned a lot about the IEP process in 20 years. Now, looking back over dozens of IEP meetings, I can honestly say the most important thing to remember for your next IEP meeting is that you and the teachers and the other members of the IEP team are all on the same side. They want your child to learn and be successful, just like you do. They are not your enemies.
I know that’s true because I’ve seen both sides. I was a special education teacher long before I became a parent of a child with special needs. As a teacher, I wanted my students to learn and accomplish. I wanted the best for them.
But as the parent at IEP meetings for my own child, I didn’t always feel that teachers felt that way. As the parent, I often felt like I was the only one who knew what could help my child. I remember thinking at times that there was only one way to accomplish something. But the truth is, when parents and teachers don’t listen to each other, we miss a lot of opportunities to work together to do what’s best for our kids.
An IEP meeting should not be a scary or anxious event in the school year. It should be a time that all people working to educate your child come together as a team. Everyone at the IEP meeting is there to work together: the school district professionals and you, as the professional for your child. By remembering that this is a time to collaborate for the sake of your child, you can set the right tone for the meeting.
Of course, not every IEP meeting will go as planned and be hunky-dory. You do have options
was the senior manager of editorial research at Understood. She is a former educator and presents nationwide at education conferences.
Trynia Kaufman, MS, the senior manager of editorial research at Understood, is a former educator and presents nationwide at education conferences. She also writes about education issues and provides expertise on editorial content. Kaufman earned a master’s degree in neuroscience and education from Teachers College, Columbia University, a bachelor’s degree from Ohio University, and a special education teaching certificate from Pima Community College.
Kaufman discovered her passion for the education field while directing a college prep program targeted toward youth in foster care. She then worked as a special education case manager and English teacher at the high school level in Tucson.
At Columbia University, Kaufman was a research assistant in multiple labs, assisting with data collection and analysis of electroencephalography (EEG), transcranial direct current stimulation (tDCS), and behavioral studies of learning processes. She was awarded the Dean’s Grant for Student Research for her master’s thesis research.
Kaufman lives in Brooklyn with her husband, Craig, and enjoys exploring the city—and also escaping the city to go hiking.
Make sure you check out this IEP overview, with tips on what to do before, during, and after IEP meetings, as well as checklists to help you prepare.
