All kids experience stress. But kids who learn and think differently face challenges that can add to that stress level.
They may feel extra stress at home, at school, or in social situations.
Frequent stress can take a toll on kids. But there are ways to avoid triggers and help kids cope.
Imagine this scene. It’s time for the class to take an important math test. Many kids are a little stressed. But the ones who are prepared and usually do OK on tests dive in. Some even feel energized to do well.
What about the kids who often don’t do well on tests? Or who study, but don’t remember or understand the material? That’s the case with many kids who learn or think differently. And they can feel more than just a little stress.
Kids who learn and think differently face all the typical stress factors other kids face. But they have additional difficulties that can add to their stress level.
Some react to stress like other kids do. But depending on their challenges, others may have much stronger reactions. For example, kids with tend to feel emotions more intensely than other kids. They also have a harder time managing those emotions.
Frequent stress can take a toll on kids. But there are ways to build their self-esteem and avoid the triggers — at home and at school.
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Good stress versus bad stress
Stress is a fact of life for everyone. It is our body’s fight-or-flight response to the many challenges the world throws our way. When we feel stress, our heart beats faster. Our palms sweat. Our system is ready for action.
Stress can be good. It can pump us up and allow us to take on the challenge in front of us. Many kids might feel stress about a test. And most can figure out how to conquer that challenge. They know how good it feels to succeed and they want to “take it on.”
Stress can also be bad. That happens when we’re overwhelmed by our challenges. Or maybe we don’t know how to cope and can’t do our best work.
What triggers stress in kids who learn and think differently
Many factors can trigger stress — in all areas of life. Often, stress happens in situations that directly involve kids’ challenges.
At school: Chaotic classrooms, unclear assignments, and fear of embarrassment can all cause stress. So can situations that call out kids’ challenges. For example, struggling readers might panic when the teacher calls on them to read aloud.
At home: Kids can have a hard time with a lack of structure. Or they might feel overwhelmed by too many afterschool activities. Stress can pile up when kids come home and feel that their families expect too much from them.
Socially: Most kids just want to fit in. That can be hard for kids who struggle with social skills or with learning. They may feel “different” when they walk into the resource room or get extra time on a test. They may have a harder time connecting with other kids.
Kids don’t always have the words to describe what they’re feeling or to ask for help. That’s why it’s important to stay tuned in and watch for signs of stress. These include:
Sudden dramatic change in how much effort they put into school
Avoiding school and tests by refusing to go
Major change in attitude — they may become moody or careless
Disruptive behavior
Acting younger than their age
Withdrawing or having outbursts
Cutting themselves off from other kids
Trouble concentrating
Noticing these signs lets you provide support before stress becomes a bigger problem. For some kids, ongoing stress leads to anxiety.
When kids are feeling a lot of stress, there are simple things you can do to help. Here are a few:
Keep talking and listening. Encourage kids to speak up when they feel overwhelmed. Parents and teachers should share what they’re seeing and hearing at home and at school.
Boost kids emotionally. Celebrate even small victories so they know what success feels like. Give praise that boosts self-esteem.
Give kids a heads-up. Let kids know in advance about changes to routine or expectations. Talk through ways to prepare. This can help kids face challenges with more confidence.
Get support. If you’re a parent or caregiver, you may worry that stress is taking a toll on your child. If so, talk to the school counselor or your child’s health care provider.
